The words in your own head matter. Be nice.
We all have a voice in our head that tells us the negative things - you are too fat, not smart enough, unattractive, not good with money, irresponsible, a screw up….. this voice can go on and on filling us with self doubt, fear, and self loathing. Most of the time this voice goes unchecked. Most of the time, the sad truth is that we actually believe this voice, and we shape our lives and decisions around it.
It doesn't have to be this way. When you start to pay attention to your own thoughts, you can start to question them. When you start to question that little voice, you create a bit of space for new thoughts to emerge. New thoughts that are kinder…. nicer…. and just as, if not MORE, true.
In my painting above I depicted this by writing down all my negative thoughts about myself in red inside the head. I then overlaid them with the thoughts that are kinder, nicer and much more true. These nicer thoughts are the ones I want to pay attention to. They are the ones I choose to believe. And these nice thoughts are absolutely the ones I will shape my life and decisions around. I hope you do too.